Relationship Goals Or Abusive Relationship? Most Abusers Won’t Change!


Can your relationship be classified as relationship goals or an abusive relationship? Most of the crimes I write about all begin with domestic abuse or domestic violence. What would it take for you to leave your abusive spouse or lover? Have you thought about it? How long have you dealt with emotional or physical abuse? Have you wondered if the abusive loved one can change?

The answer is debatable and depends on the source. Some so-called former abusers swear they’ve changed. But many experts believe it’s biologically impossible for most abusers to change, even if they want to do it.

In most cases, no matter what an abuser says or promises to do, and despite their attempts to minimize and push down abusive tendencies by using positive tools—one day, when the right buttons are pushed, and the situation is right—or wrong, an abusive husband or problematic boyfriend will return to what they know—abuse. And that could be the day that it all ends in disaster.

Here’s a difficult fact: despite meditation, despite medication, despite classes, or religion, most abusers will ALWAYS BE abusers.


Traciy Curry-Reyes

Traciy Curry-Reyes is the founder and editor-in-chief of TV Crime Sky. She began her career as a true crime & entertainment freelance writer in the 1990's for her website, The Movies Based on True Stories Database/Archives. She has contributed content to other websites, such as and Traciy also appears as a true-crime expert and commentator on TV One's Fatal Attraction, For My Man, and Justice by Any Means; Investigation Discovery's Murder Calls and Scorned; Oxygen's Snapped; FOX's Crime Watch Daily; and Lifetime Television's Killer Kids.